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Another close up of the same tree in the backyard.

Close up a bush right outside my kitchen window.

My neighbors' cars and the tree in my front yard.

The front sidewalk. J shoveled it clear around 4p.m. yesterday. There's not a ton of accumulation on it, but some...

The fire pit in the back yard. You can sort of see here how deep the snow is. This is under the giant mulberry tree, though, so it was somewhat sheltered.

The shed in the backyard. Please excuse the rust. Taking care of that and repainting the shed is one of our spring / early summer jobs this year.

Exhibit 2: The DIRTY dishes that have been multiplying for three days while waiting for J to empty the dishwasher. I could be a good wife and just do it myself, but I'm not and I won't. Some day, when I am rich and famous, I will have a personal cook who will take care of cleaning the kitchen for us. He (or she) will cook us healthy meals and keep the kitchen so clean you could eat off the floor, and I will love him (or her).
Exhibits 3 and 4: The newspapers on the living room floor. I think it's fine to leave them on the floor while you are reading it. But after you finish, they should get picked up and recycled. EVERY DAY. J thinks it's fine to continue to add to the pile (or to create a new pile as illustrated in Exhibit 4) throughout the week as garbage / recycle day is Monday. Why pick it up today if it won't be taken care of until next Monday? Some day, when I am rich and famous, I will have a housekeeper who will follow along behind J and pick up his messes as he makes them. She will be quiet and unobtrusive, extremely neat and organized, and I will love her.
Exhibit 5: The mess in my craft room. While most of the mess in the house is truly J's (though he will deny it vehemently and point out my backpack and jacket in the kitchen), this is all me. I just don't have the storage I need to be able to function well in this room. Every time I get it cleaned up, in a matter of days it's like this again. Someday, when I am rich and famous I will have a house with a room for just crafting. It will have shelves and drawers and cupboards and I will love it.
Exhibit 6: The mail table. I think the junk mail is procreating on my table. There is no other way to explain how much junk is there. How on earth can so much mail come for just two people? Especially two people who do much of their banking online? Some day, when I am rich and famous, I will have a house with a mail center, and a secretary who will sort through my mail and pay my bills. She will be organized and neat, and I will love her.
Exhibit 7: I haven't done laundry this week. This is the pile that has begun forming in the kitchen near the laundry "closet" because the hamper in the bedroom is full. One day, when I am rich and famous, I will have a house with an entire room for laundry. It will have shelves and bars to hang stuff on, and I will love it. But in the meantime, guess who else hasn't done any laundry lately? And guess who wears two t-shirts and a sweatshirt every day? And guess who is giant so very few of his clothes fill up my king-sized washing machine, thereby quadrupling the number of loads that have to be done? And guess who won't help put away the laundry...even his own freaky long jeans? And guess who will walk over the giant laundry pile in the bedroom for weeks without even noticing it?
Exhibit 8: The garage. Three years ago my sister and I organized and completely cleaned out the garage. (Thank you T!! And sorry!) When people came to my house, I actually opened the garage door and showed them the garage. It was a thing of beauty. I considered hosting guests out there I was so proud of it. Now I'm horrified by it. I have helped contribute to this mess, I have to admit, but only a little bit. I have BOXES of books out there that need to get sorted through. But they are all in one location, stacked pretty neatly, impeding no walkways. I also just toss boxes out in the garage that need to get broken down and taken to the cardboard recycling bins. But why bother doing that if I can't even walk to them? Some day, when I am rich and famous, I will have a house that has TWO garages. One for me and my car, and one for J and his crap. It will be a division of space, and I will love it.
Exhibit 9: The leaves that fell in OCTOBER are still on the ground. And the deck. And J got a fabulous leaf eating machine from his parents last year for his birthday. Or was it Christmas? No matter, we've only used it twice. And one of those times was not when the leaves fell this fall. We have an enormous mulberry tree, and a fairly large oak tree in the back yard. The amount of leaves dropped between those two trees is mind boggling. The first year we were in the house it took, and this is no exaggeration, 38 HUGE lawn and leaf bags to take care of it all. Those bags represented HOURS and HOURS of back breaking raking and shoveling (most of which were done by J because I hate yard work and I quit after three hours the first day). The next year we didn't even bother picking them up, and that was a mistake. The grass has never been the same back there. Now we have this machine that looks like a lawn mower that sucks the leaves up and mulches them all in the same action, but we didn't use it. To be fair, when the leaves first dropped, the weather was pretty sucky and it's hard to suck up wet leaves. But then free time got in the way of chores and we still have the leaves rotting on the deck and the grass. P.S. Notice how the deck is peeling? We've been planning (for two years now) to fix that. J refinished the deck three years ago and it looked awesome. Then it started to peel for some reason, and it still looks like crap. One day, when I am rich and famous, I will have a house that has a deck that is beautiful, looks real, but needs no care. I will also have a gardener who will pick the leaves one at a time off the trees right before they fall, so they never land on the deck or the grass. I will love my deck and my gardener.